[marriage/in-laws] MY CONFIDENCE IS DECREASING BECAUSE OF MY HAIR LOSS

Hello, I’m a girl in my mid-twenties,

I wanted to hear some advice from people who are older than me so I’m writing this ㅠㅠ

I started to lose hair during middle school. As a high schooler, I just felt that my amount of hair has become a bit less but that’s it. I didn’t know that it was hair loss.

And so, I went to university and now, I’m entering the job market and suddenly my hair loss has become a lot worse.

I’ll tell you how bad my hair loss is

 Right now, the condition of my hair loss is exactly that of image I-4. It’s looking pretty bad.

 I got on medication and I went to the hospital to treat my hair loss but whenever it starts to get better, I suddenly start to lose hair again.

If I don’t put on hair powder or a wig, I absolutely cannot go out. Even at home, if there’s a family member or anyone home, I have to put on hair powder.

But come to think of it, I think that my scalp has degenerated since it cannot breatheㅠㅠ right now, when I don’t use hair powder, I just wear a light wig.

Also, I have a boyfriend but we haven’t been dating for long.

I tried to hide it from him but since I see my boyfriend often, he’s now aware of my hair condition.

If we are at home together, I always have a hood or cap on. And if not, I turn off the lights.

I feel that my boyfriend is in a tight position, but he never said anything in front of me. But he told me that he understands me and he asked me if I couldn’t keep the lights on.

No matter what, I cannot let him see my hair… I feel like he will grow to hate me and break up with me..

Back then, a lot of people called me pretty so I had a lot of confidence.

But I now developed some kind of social phobia. Every time I go out, I can’t look at people in their eyes.

I’m scared that people would see my hair and lough or whisper among them.. I know that they won’t do those of kinds but I can’t bring myself to believe that.

After my hair loss became worse, my confidence decreased a lot. I almost don’t meet any guys anymore.

I think to myself “what kind of guys would even like someone like me..”

But even so, I have a boyfriend now and he always tells me how he loves me and adores me. He doesn’t know my hair loss situation in detail but he has a general idea of it and he said that he understands me.

But I’m still scared that I might get hurt…

Please give me some advice ㅠㅠ

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ㅇㅇ |2017.02.22 01:03 신고하기

Since you wear a hoodie and turn off the lights because of your low confidence, it feels like you want to depart from him.. I don’t have that many people dealing with this issue but I have an unnie who’s suffering from hair loss too. When she goes out, she puts on a wig and in the summer, she always tie her hair up in a bun. That unnie is in a relationship and is even married now and she’s living a good life. I’m saying this because people who wants to leave will leave and people who wants to stay will stay. I just wish that you would show a more dignified side of yourself in front of your boyfriend.

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ㅇㅇ |2017.02.22 14:02 신고하기

 Is the second reply crazy? You have the audacity to say that kind of thing to someone who’s been living a miserable life because of her hair loss? Sigh… I wanna vomit, f*ck

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남자 ㅂ |2017.02.22 12:40 신고하기

ㅋㅋㅋㅋ So if I understand well, you guys are always calling out guys who are balding as detestable and such, but you want us to sympathize with girls? ㅋㅋㅋㅋ stop living with double standards (commenter is a man)

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노노 |2017.02.22 14:00 신고하기

Seriously I feel like puking just by reading the comments.. OP has developed social phobia and stress because of her hair loss and you’re still saying all these cruel things to her? OP, if you can find the cause of your hair loss, please go to the hospital.. Please don’t put yourself downㅠㅠ fighting

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패마 |2017.02.22 13:45 신고하기

I logged in to comment. Women’s hair loss can get better out of a sudden. I went to a hospital in my university and wanted to know if I was losing hair because of my genes or because of stress and they gave me minoxidil (medication to promote hair growth). I took the 3% one and I used it for 3 months. You have to put it on every day. I also went to  the hospital once every 1-2 months. Since it wasn’t as effective, they prescribed me the 5% dosage instead. They usually don’t prescribe medication that you need to intake for women (because it might be dangerous for giving birth). So I used minoxidil while eating biotin supplements. If you don’t treat it, it’s gonna get worse. Women recover from the crown hair loss more easily than men so please go to a hospital. Please you must go!!!

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