(t/n: picture not included and he is NOT the actor OP is talking about, we just took the picture so you guys can "visualize" it, we picked a popular actor looking through comments of a previous post we wrote today!)
Yesterday, we had a huge fight and I'm writing this post after agreeing to my wife's idea
We've been married for 8 years, we also have 2 kids and we're a couple in our 30's
My wife is a die hard fan of a certain actor (t/n: let's call him A)
I know it's common for girls to have 1 or 2 celebrities they really like,
but she liked that one celebrity ever since she was single all the way to now
She would watch A's dramas and movies and look for articles about him after...You probably think that this is something normal to do right?
But my wife is seriously like those teens sasaengs level
Whenever she leaves work, whether it's weekend or weekdays (T/n: in Korea, you work until Saturday) she would find A's schedule and follow him all the way to airports, press releases and even his shooting scenes areas
Of course, it doesn't only eat up all her time, but also her body
Even though she's sick, she would go follow A around
She obviously participates in the fan cafe's activities until late night or overnight and she also writes articles about A and posts comments all around
She even creates and edits fan videos of him, and she would contribute to his tributes, and I'm not talking about modest amounts of money
There are even members of the fan cafe would recognize my wife's ID right away,
and I'm pretty certain that A himself knows about the existence of my wife to some extent that's how over the top her craze is for him
My wife and I have similar earnings and we're a double income family so I can understand the stress that comes with it and the need to have a hobby to compensate
but this doesn't feel like an energizer, as someone who is married and as a mother, do you think it's even possible to balance house work, looking after the kids, earning money, and fangirling all the time?
Just doing one of those for a living is hard enough, isn't this the reality?
Some people might misunderstand what I just wrote, but the house work that we have to do at home is pretty exhausting and once we get off work, we have to bath the kids and prepare food for them, we have to also clean the house and wash the clothes, I help her doing all of those
But I'm not complaining about those
The question is that we still have to have family time together at the end of the day
My wife is so obsessed with making money that her time spent with the kids have became so small
It's also hard for my wife to have time for herself too
So the more I see my wife fangirl on A, the harder it gets because I feel the division
This is the truth
I can understand that you like a celebrity,
but this should only be a hobby,
I also don't want to marry a girl who only does house chores, this is not what I want
but I think that she should at least be family-oriented
The way she wants to spend her spare time on celebrities she likes
and follow him to the airports or wherever she wants, is seriously getting on my nerves
I would rather spend this time so we can travel somewhere with our family
What do you guys think?
I know that this place has a lot of tension between male and female netizens and I'm worried that I might get sworn at so I tried to convey my opinion with a lot of caution
Let's change perspective, if I was an ajussi in my late 30's who follows female celebrities to their filming spots and concerts as soon as I finish work and I just follow them around and use my money for their tributes and fan-cafe. Or that I write posts about them all the time, will you guys like it?
I thought that she would 100% understand me, but she just denied everything and kept doing her own thing.
The older one is going to school this year and we have to give a lot of attention to her/him.
I'm trying to do my best as a dad of a boy and a girl but I have my limits,
There are times when our kids also need their mom.
And seeing this tears me apart.
This is something she is not willing to do and it'd require 2 or 3 times her body
What should I do, I need your help
I want to get other opinions that is not from my side. My wife has already written her post and she has uploaded it (t/n: we didn't find it :S)
t/n: so the end of the post is just the husband and the wife each writing a "follow-up" the the incident, they said they both read all the comments and the wife acknowledges it, and she'll try her best to fix it
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- 28녀 2018.01.03 11:18
- Even as a girl, I pity this husband. .I pity the kids too. . She should be spending time with the kids prettilyㅜㅜ Being a celebrity is a job, they pamper themselves and get conditioned to smile in front of the fans and act kindly in front of everyone. Think about how as an employee, you have no other choice but to act obedient and submissive towards your superior, that's the same logic that applies between celebrities and fans. They treat us well only because we're the reason they get to lay food on the table. Please don't get disillusioned with ulterior motives, I'm single, but from what my mom told me, as kids grow up, you won't be able to gain back the time you were supposed to spend with them. This is exactly your situation right now. Once the kids hit adolescence, they would just spend time among themselves and your wife will not be able to spend time with them, let's not throw away this precious moment
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- 남자 ㅡㅡ 2018.01.03 10:54
- I know that teens and single people only have their own body to take care of but if you decide to follow celebrities around, it's your studies that will take the blow. And when you get back to work the next day, of course it'll affect your work. I hope kids out there have a reality check after seeing his wife, please think about your kids. That celebrity will not take care of you after you get a divorce
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- 웃겨 2018.01.03 11:24
- To be honest, I don't know who the celebrity is, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel pleasant to have an ajumma with 2 kids fangirling over him... He's probably swearing internally. He probably has a lot of young ladies who are single fangirling over him, why does it have to be an ajumma.... Please just fangirl on your kids instead
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